What to do when the word hurt us

When someone’s words hurt us, it can be challenging to know how to respond.
Before responding to hurtful words, take a moment to calm yourself and process your emotions. Take a deep breath and try to step back from the situation.

  • Consider who the words are coming from and their intentions. Sometimes people say hurtful things out of ignorance or insecurity, and it’s important to recognize that their words may not reflect the truth.

  • Response with kindness, even when someone has hurt us, can be a powerful way to diffuse the situation. Try to respond with empathy and understanding, and avoid reacting in anger or defensiveness.

  • Seek support from friends, family, or a counselor if you’re struggling with the effects of hurtful words. Talking through your emotions with someone you trust can help you process your feelings and find a way forward.

  • Forgive can be a difficult but powerful way to let go of hurtful words and move on. It’s important to remember that forgiveness is not about condoning hurtful behavior, but rather about releasing yourself from the burden of anger and resentment.

It’s okay to feel hurt and to take time to process your emotions. With time and support, you can heal from the effects of hurtful words and move forward with confidence and resilience.


If the person continues to use hurtful language, it’s important to set boundaries to protect yourself. This could mean limiting contact with them or seeking support from others.

Make self-care a priority to help manage the emotions and stress that come with being hurt by someone’s words. This could include spending time with loved ones, engaging in relaxation techniques like meditation or yoga, or pursuing a hobby or interest that brings you joy.